Chris,
You should not have to use the night mode, nor should you want to. You are losing a lot of the soundtrack's dynamics.
Also, you should not have to make your center channel hotter than the others.
Are you noticing this problem with both DD DVDs and DD HD broadcasts?
What DVD player are you using?
One common source of "weak" dialogue in multichannel soundtracks is actually not a function of your center channel at all. It is not unlikely that you are getting some mean first-reflection from your two front speakers. In essence, you are getting two signals from each of your front speakers...those coming directly from the speakers and those coming from the first reflection points. They are hitting your ears at different times and are muddying things up. Small accoustical panels placed at the first reflection points could really help out. I can nearly guarantee that you'll hear a significant difference. In my opinion, treating your room is the single best "upgrade" you can make.
You can look in my gallery. I have some installed, albeit they are bigger than you may need. Let me know if you want some more info.
James